All About Love....!!!!

What is love? 
Can someone define it? 
Not many people would say ‘yes’ and some would say it’s a ‘myth’. We have lots of people asking the same question for quite a long time about the ‘L’ word. I don’t think anyone would have a specific answer to it. Some deny the existence, some live hoping for it. Since our childhood we grew up in an environment always talking about love, the fairy tales which prompt us about the prince charming or the princess who are just waiting for us to sweep us off the ground or get carried away. Basically we never thought in our lives, what would happen when the moment of ‘swept away by someone off the ground’ comes, if it is carried away till the end then its fine. It is so obvious we are going to fall and hit the ground, could be with our face or our head. What about ‘carried away falling off on the way to the end’. I am sure we will break our bones, we would certainly ooze some blood or crack our skulls. As a matter of fact we could lose our liveliness or being alive state. So my point is all go on and on about breaking our heart in love and leaving a scar after being shattered. I haven’t heard anyone said or talked about the hit they took when they were swept off. A message has been sent already, it is going to hurt or you will feel the pain. Yet all of us, not one or some, but all of us deny the fact of the message and we fall in love then what are we complaining about?


The most surprising thing is we are so much addicted to the pain or the high we get from the feeling that we fall in love again, not once but for some people many a times in their lives. Actually we chase after the pain, we look around for love or acceptance. When we fail to get, we start looking around for some other way or different kind of love which can give us the same feeling of acceptance or high. When people are in love what make them so sure that s/he is the one? What sign or message do we get, that we are so convinced with? The ‘soul mate’ that is what we refer them. None of us are 100% sure of it. It is just the feeling that we want it to be with us, we blindfold ourselves and follow where ever it takes us. Some get lucky and the soul mate actually turn out to be with them forever, spend their lives, share their happiness and sorrow together.What about the rest? The hopes we keep up, the pain we take just to keep breathing. Some blames themselves for the things happening around. They forget the rest of the world, trying to fix things which are not in their hands. If s/he goes off, fall out of love with you, then whose fault is it? It’s theirs not yours. We get so used to the feeling or rather I would say fooling ourselves that things would change and will be as same as before, we forget to see how stupid we look like or act and do all kind of stupid things which one would be embarrassed to see themselves doing them.


There are different kinds of love. As we know, it is not only the ‘soul mate’ love we have, but we have people who love us: our family, friends, pets, etc. Well that’s way too different. 
Anyways my point is we forget about other love which we can nourish. The most important one: loving ourselves, the way we are. We were born this way, GOD has created us the way we are then why bother changing it for someone who does not even value our existence. Spend time loving the way you are, how you look an embrace the feeling. I am not saying one can be an ass with others because we were taught to be ourselves and embrace it. If essential changes are required to be a normal human being then I believe that is important. I heard someone saying ‘Love yourself so you can love others’. It is true, I mean if one doesn't know what love is or the feeling of love is then how can you expect to love others or say you are in love. So guys when someone goes away from your live or walks out don’t worry it is not your fault, it’s theirs. All I am saying is if you are doing right things and putting all your effort to keep your love happy and keep what you got then you should know whose fault it is. Stop beating yourself up for no reason. Love what you have instead to chase what you don’t have and feel bad or feel not worthier. God has made all of us alike. If not exactly alike like clones but compromises are made for all of us to be at the same category. 


There is always a perfect match. We being human, so restless that instead to wait for the right moment rather person to come along we start looking out by ourselves and again for the same reason we blame Him asking ‘why would you do this?’. Waiting for the moment doesn't mean sit and literally wait, just keep your heart open with your eyes so one can see what is coming for them. Just keeping your heart open is bad, people may start treating you like a trash can. May be like a bus stop, when they are waiting for theirs. Everything happens for a reason, don’t break your head trying to figure it out. Let reason be unknown sometime, no need to have all answer for every questions life gives you. We come across many people in life to tell us something, let them say and let them go. If they were meant to stay, they will stay even if you don’t want them to. Things happen in past learn the lesson and let it go. 


Life is full of surprises wait for your turn. Don’t be afraid to fall in love. If things were bad before, good things will come. Don’t try to dig out the surprise that is not your work. Just play your part well in the drama of life. Let the pieces come one after the other, what’s the point of gathering all the pieces at once if you don’t know where to put them. Let them fall into places of it’s own. Don’t try to put your extra hand and little brain into it. When things come by use sensible head to think what exactly life is try to say. It always comes with a message. Remember those peoples or friends or a person whom you come across in a station or bus or train who helped you at the last moment when you gave everything. Those people are not meant to stay throughout our lives. They came and went you can’t really run after them asking them to help you every time you give up on something. People fall in love with wrong people all the time, we need not give up and shut ourselves up from love. This doesn't mean the person is wrong on this earth. Wrong for you or us but that could be right for someone else. Don’t fall for every one coming across, just to see if s/he is right for you, then you would be having quite a slippery heart I would say. Don’t slip off. 

We always wonder about the right sign to get when see the ‘soul mate’, stop wondering about it, because there isn't any. There are no specific signals like those of ambulance siren or the fire alarm. You will just know it when it comes. It may not rain heavy or win may not blow on your face when it comes or s/he may not come walking in a slow motion, like movies. Your heart is your signal, open to what comes in. Know yourself love yourself, love will love you. 


There is another saying ‘If you haven’t fallen in love once in your life you haven’t lived your life yet’. So let us stop complaining about the pain and the hurt, because unknowingly we are looking out for love. Love is such a feeling you can’t ignore or deny. Some may fall once other may fall more than that. But everyone has someone matched up already. So don’t lock yourself up in the dungeon come out of it. It is not a myth people talk about or a horror movie which will scare you off your seat. Safe way, wear a seat belt go on for the bumpy ride, live the moment. No one knows when one will die then why wait. You deserve to enjoy and be happy. Fall in love.